Today I’m going to show you have to actually achieve all your New Year resolutions…….DONT MAKE THEM!
Don’t get me wrong. I love reminiscing over the previous year and thinking of all the possibilities the New Year holds, but resolutions…..nope. I’ve learned my lesson about resolutions. Typically they are a poorly formed idea based off of negative connotations that set you up for failure from the very get go.
Some typically examples are:
- I’m going to lose 20 pounds
- I’m going to quit smoking
- I’m going to read more
- I’m going to eat healthier
Give it two months (maybe even one) and I bet you’ve already either forgotten about your resolution or given up on it. Why do we do that to ourselves e-v-e-r-y year?
It’s because we “feel” motivated. So lets talk about motivation. Motivation is fleeting. There one moment, and gone the next. (like a bag of Oreos on a rough day.)
Motivation is great to get you started…..but terrible at seeing you though. So what then?
- First ask yourself “What is it I truly desire?”
DESIRE: a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen.
If you really wanted to read more, change a bad habit or workout, you most likely would have started that prior to the New Year without even giving it a second thought! Your goal should make you excited and eager to get started, not holding it off till the 1st of January to get started.
“Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.” — Napoleon Hill
2. Fail to plan….plan to fail. Schedule it.
PLAN: decide on and arrange in advance.
This is my favorite part! Planners and To Do lists! There is just something so exhilarating about checking things off of to do list. Personally I do both. I have oodles of paper to-do lists and reminders in my phone. Sundays are a great day for me to write out my week and all my priorities. I will plan my week and fill in the days that I know I will be able to realistically devote time to whatever the goal is. Don’t put pressure on yourself, some weeks may look different from other weeks and that’s okay!
“The key is not to prioritize whats on your schdule, but to schdule your priorities” _ StephenCovey
3. Make a Habit.
HABIT: a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up.
At the end of the day we are all creatures of habit. Our brains typically take the path of least resistance and when our mind has time to think about something it can talk you out of it VERY quickly. I have used Mel Robbins 5 second rule and it really does work, in my opinion. The idea is that when you have the desire to act on a goal or commitment, there is a 5 second window before your brain tries to talk you out of it. Therefore when you have the thought you begin to count backwards from 5-4-3-2-1. As soon at you the number 1- push yourself to move.
“It is easier to prevent bad habits than to break them.” ―Benjamin Franklin
So there you have it!
My 3 ways to achieving you new year goals. You must have:
- a desire
- a plan
- a habit
I hope this article serves to help point you in the right direction as you pursue improving your lives as we move in to the New Year!
What are some of your New Year desires?